For You, Daddy!

Wednesday, 1 April 2015

“People Will Never Forget How You Made Them Feel.”

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Last week, I went to my cousin’s home to pick up a wall hanging that she wanted to give me. The wall hanging was in the TV room. I was so excited about getting an unexpected gift and so focused on remembering my cousin’s instructions on how to retrieve the item, I did not realise the television was on, which meant that someone was in there watching telly.

 

Two steps into the room and I realised Zach, Cousin’s 7 year old boy, was nestled on the couch eyes previously glued to the screen, but then on me, temporarily startled by my intrusion.

 

“Oh, hi Zach, I didn’t realise someone was in here. I’m sorry I barged in without knocking.”

 

And then …

 

“Hi Kate. That’s okay. You can barge in anytime.”

 

Bowled over, I leaped onto the couch and nearly crushed Zach with a hug for his generous spirit.

 

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said,

People will forget what you did,

But people will never forget how you made them feel.”

~ Maya Angelou

 

 

Me, Zach’s Grandma and Zach’s Mummy at a family birthday

Me, Zach’s Grandma and Zach’s Mummy at a family birthday

 

 

 

 

 

 

Tuesday, 1 April 2014

Silver Threads Among The Gold

 

 

 

 

 

 

This song is one of many Daddy sang when he played the guitar. It is also a piece I learned to play on the piano when I was 8.

 

 

Of all the YouTube offerings, I chose this one because the scratchy vinyl took me back to my childhood and our well preserved gramophone.

 

This post has nothing to do with that song, but towards the end (of this post), I have used the words ‘Silver’ and ‘Gold’ because they mean something in this post.

 

 

Let’s go for the gold … and silver, shall we?

 

 

D’ya remember I ended my last post,

Thank You

https://foryoudaddy.wordpress.com/2014/03/01/thank-you/

with this, um, cliffhanger?

 

The ‘All of you’ at the bottom of the sheet are not, um, any of you who happen to read this post.

 

So who am I speaking to?

 

What kind of lame#ss jerk would I be if I didn’t keep you hanging until my next post by answering your question with one of my own?

 

 

So we are now at the aforementioned “next post” and here’s what the … oooh, secrecy was all about.

 

 

From the day Mum fell, through her hospitalisation and recovery at home, I kept our family and friends abreast of Mum’s condition with newsletters via e-mail. I may not have a Facebook account or one on any social medium, but I’ll be d#mned if I can’t be in people’s faces with the goings on in my life. 😉

 

 

The following text in brown is an excerpt from the last newsletter I sent out to my family and friends; when Mum was well and truly all grown up. I mean, when she kicked her walking cane to the curb and began speeding along on her own steam.

 

 

For you. And you. And you.: I mean, All of you.   

A message for y'all!

A message for y’all!

 

 

 

 

From Her Heart: Not just the bottom, but her whole heart.

With gratitude and appreciation.

 

 

 

This second attempt is a more clear shot of the scroll that Mum’s holding in the first picture. I’m still pants at taking photographs, and I did not realise I needed to be closer to Mum for you to read, um, my artwork. Look at the camera flash in the mirror? I’m not even amateur level. Oh, and how about my matchstick arms going all selfie and photobomb-ing this shot? L-o-s-e-r! That’s me. At photography. Only. 😉

 

 

Oh, you don’t see your name on that list? Actually, those three people are none of you reading this newsletter. Nope, not even you, Chris, or mJ. Well, you’re mJ, not MJ. Those are other friends of mine and I had requested Mum to thank them for something else altogether. All of you reading this are the All of you mentioned at the bottom of the scroll.

 

 

Nah uh. Not so quick with the sulks. Just because you’re at the bottom doesn’t mean you are the least important. All of you have been mentioned in silver and gold. Those shades were by design, not coincidence, me lovelies.

 

 

Uh oh. I’m busted? I used the colours silver and gold for All of you, but I don’t like silver and gold jewellery? Um.  Yeah. You’re right. Kinda.

 

 

Being an oddball in the family for as long as I can remember, I’ve never been fond of gold (jewellery) even as a child. I took to silver in a big way in my teens. But I stopped purchasing precious or semi-precious metal and stones in 2000-ish. Um, because I jumped the tree hugging bandwagon and tried to do my bit by not bling-ing out at the cost of bleeding the bowels of Mother Earth.

 

 

A few years later, I got worse when I Blood Diamond-ed (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0450259/) my thinking.

 

 

And now I’m beyond redemption with my marketisation of society* mania conviction.

 

 

*What Isn’t for Sale? by Michael J. Sandel, Harvard Professor  

http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/04/what-isnt-for-sale/308902/

 

 

So yes, I may not buy precious metals anymore and I seldom use what little I have, but don’t let that take away from the fact that I consider All of you precious, k?

 

 

Your support – in person to those who could and the rest via other means – has helped Mum on her journey back to independence. It wasn’t easy for her, it wasn’t easy for me. A lot of times, it was downright exhausting for her physically and exhausting mentally for me. With prayer, and support from a lot of wonderful people including your lovely selves, Mum is … on the loose again! Ha ha!

 

 

 

Mirror, Mirror

 Me, Sis-in-law, Mum and Big Sis

 

 

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It is Earth Day (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Earth_Day) this month. Tuesday, April 22, to be precise.

 

You know the scroll that Mum’s holding in the very first photograph? I’ve written  the ‘Thank You’ message on the reverse, blank side of an old calendar sheet.

Did you baulk at the table fan in the last photograph? No? Well, it is 39 years (g)old. Now please baulk.

 

 

I’m notorious for squeezing the life out of my possessions and recycling whatever I can get my grubby ‘lil green paws on. 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

Quoting directly from the site:

100% of the profits from the sale of this limited edition T-shirt will benefit Earth Day Network.

http://www.earthday.org/

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Saturday, 1 March 2014

Thank You

Filed under: Family,Friends — by For you, Daddy! @ 12:30 am
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This picture was taken at Big Brother’s who lives 7 km away from our childhood home. We had gone to spend the day with Big Bro’s family as it was their church feast.

 

 

This photograph was taken on Sunday, 26 January 2014. At the time, Mum was still using her walking cane.

 

Which means, she was still not completely independent at the time.  

 

Which also means, I was still fairly deep in caregiver mode.  

 

Which eventually means, I used the colours for your names – Chris, Elvie and MJ – with scant thought.

 

 

After I saw the finished product, I realised I could have chosen the colours differently; appropriately, if you will. 

 

 

To rectify that earlier lapse, when replying to the comments you left after my last post, I have accordingly colour coded your text below.  

 

 

Chris, the colour purple comes to mind when I think of you because of the banner on your blog.

 

 

Elvie, your blog is a riot of bright shades, so I’ve chosen the closest colour that my Yahoo Compose* palette offers me.

 

 

MJ, you of leprechaun descent, need I say more?! 🙂

 

 

*WordPress does not accept any formatting that I do in Word. I have to format my posts in the Compose section of my Yahoo mail. So I draft my posts in Word, format them in Yahoo Mail and then post into WordPress. Three step tedium. And despite that 1-2-3 tango, WordPress does not allow all of the formatting I carefully select. Well, I get what I pay for, si

 

 

Mum, and my family for that matter, is quite used to me scribbling shout-outs like this. My family knows all my friends, so they were all curious about you, Elvie, because they assumed Chris and MJ were my guy pals they have met. I muttered something about you being my Filipina colleague from my Saudi Aramco days. Ha ha!

 

 

Then they asked what I was thanking you all for and why just the three of you. Because they knew that when I had sent out the newsletters with the news of Mum’s fall and later, her progress, all my friends and relatives had responded via e-mail or with calls and/or visits. I remember responding a little red faced with embarrassment for nearly being busted, but cannot remember what my exact lame response was. I just remember I didn’t accidentally blurt out about this blog. Whew.

 

 

Onto your kind comments and my trademark long winding replies. 

 

 

Chris

Misslisted

Every single story has a beginning at its end.

http://misslisted.com/

 

 

>Oh dear! So sorry to see this!

– Yeah, I was very sad for Mum the first few seconds when I realised she had a fracture because she lived such a full life until her fall.

 

 

>But, looks like she’s doing well all things considered.

– She is, Chris! She had a beautiful (= no unexpected hitches) recovery and she’s definitely got her mojo back now. Here’s proof.

 

 

 

All set for the stage!

 

This was taken on Sunday 16 February 2014,

the day of our chapel feast.

Mum participated in the group that sang

(and danced to) folk songs.

After nearly two decades

(looking after Daddy who had a stroke for 17 years

and then, till I returned home),

Mum resumed some of her former activities.

One of them is singing.

 

 

When Mum first rejoined this group of parishioners three years ago, she was the oldest. One of Mum’s friends, a former alto, who at 83, is older than Mum by a year, was inspired to join this year.

So this year, Mum gladly gave away her ‘Oldest Participant’ tiara to her pal (not in picture).

 

 

Bottom lines:

We are never too old to do things – old or new

and

We’re never too old to be exemplary citizens.  

 

 

 

>And what a beautiful mommy she is too…

– *blush* Thank you. I think my mummy is very pretty, too. And I’m so glad I don’t look anything like her because I’d positively die with all the comments she gets about her looks! Oh, don’t get me wrong – I love attention!

 

 

When I was younger, I basked in praise over my academic and later, professional achievements. Today I want to be recognised for other traits of mine. I’d rather people comment on my kindness, my trustworthiness or my humour; not something as fleeting and superficial as skin deep traits. Fortunately, Mum’s a lovely person as well.

 

 

>xo

– I’m a bit shy hugging someone I don’t know well, but you come across as a good person, Chris. Oh, and you’re such a cool mummy to have, too. So here ((hug)).

 

 

Elvie

FLOWERSBLOOMS by “Elvie”

MY WORLD IS A KALEIDOSCOPE OF COLOR! Paintings of my life’s journey, experiences, cherished memories, emotions, thought, ideas and other interesting stuffs.

http://flowersblooms-elvierose.blogspot.in/

 

 

>I hope Mumpty Dumpty recovers and back to normal soon.

– Mum’s no longer cracked! *grin* Her X-ray a month after her surgery showed a very faint shadow at the fracture site.

 

 

>Praying for you mommy !

– Salamat po, Elvie! I believe in the power of prayer, so yours were among all those that put Mum on the smooth road to recovery. 

 
 
Oh, more thing, Elvie – Happy Birthday to you!  
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
When I went looking for an image to wish you,
as soon as I saw this pic, I thought,
“Elvie bakes, and her doggies take the cake!”
 
I know your day will be filled with
sweet people, sweet pets and sweet things to eat!
Have an extra slice for me! 🙂

 

 

 

MJ

MJ Monaghan

“It’s like taking a nap on that little rug when you were in kindergarten.”

http://www.mjmonaghan.com/

 

 

>Hey, my friend. It’s been too long since I’ve been commenting on blogs.

– I know! (Screeched like Monica in ‘F.R.I.E.N.D.S’)

 

 

I kid. Since you last stopped by, you and your family, have been through the geographical and emotional wringer.

 

 

>So very sorry to hear about your mum. Hope she mends quickly and remains in good spirits. May God be with her.

 – And He was! God, I mean. I genuinely believe He designed her complication free recovery and that’s why Mum mended quickly and remained in good spirits throughout. 🙂

 

 

>I also hope your life has been churning along nicely

– Churning. An appropriate word.

 

 

Renovations of the foyer, living and dining rooms began in September last year. (Preps for the same began a month earlier because we have a 189 year old home.)

 

 

Mum fell in November. With our interlude in hospital, work at home got interrupted and ended eventually on 16 December, a day before the first of family arrived for Christmas.

 

 

Having recovered from re-settling into those three front rooms, the master bedroom has begun being bludgeoned today. Estimated time to completion: nearly 2 months. Joy.

 

 

>and that you are well and healthy.

– Not surprisingly, I am! Not surprisingly because I’m very strict with my meal and rest times. And God has orchestrated the rest of my wellness.

 

 

>See you in February!!

– Well, you did see me in February, MJ. But not here; on my blog, I mean.  

 

 

I know I said this in my last post:

 

>Blogs, my own and yours that I read, will continue to sit on the back burner for the next three months i.e. until February 2014. That’s when Mum is expected to function absolutely normally on her awesome ownsome.  

 

 

I couldn’t post here on the 1st of February because Mum stopped using the cane that day as per her surgeon’s advice. But I still had to shadow Mum everywhere for almost all of last month. (That’s why I pointed out my headless self in the second photograph above.)

 

 

The transition to hands free mobility was expectedly filled with trepidation and protests. So the first two weeks I followed Mum around the house because we have single and twin steps between almost all our rooms. Mum has an arthritic right knee and after three months of comparative inactivity of her right knee joint (Mum fractured her right femur), she’d forgotten how to bend her knee and lift her foot high enough to get onto or over a step. When she didn’t do that, she stumbled. So I have had to constantly remind her to lift her right foot when required.

 

 

I had warned Mum not to get used to me accompanying her everywhere outdoors and that I would tail her for one month only while she learned the ropes again. It took Mum nearly three weeks to remember “the rules” without being prompted by my growls. Now she’s truly flying free –  indoors and out – without me in her wake. 🙂  

 

 

Back to the three of you. In all likelihood, you could not read that sheet of paper clearly in the first photograph because I forgot to save a copy of the original, full resolution image for this post. So here’s a full res close-up that I had taken in case the text was too fine in the early photograph. Good move, Kate! Um, yes, I talk to myself sometimes. 😉

 

 

 

 

From my mummy’s heart and mine to yours –

Chris,

Elvie

and

MJ.

 

 

 

The ‘All of you’ at the bottom of the sheet are not, um, any of you who happen to read this post.

 

So who am I speaking to?

 

What kind of lame#ss jerk would I be if I didn’t keep you hanging until my next post by answering your question with one of my own?

 

 



 

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Thank you,  Misslisted, FLOWERSBLOOMS by “Elvie” and MJ Monaghan, for commenting on my last post.

 

Thank you, MJ Monaghan, for liking my last post.

 

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Sunday, 1 December 2013

Mumpty Dumpty

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Mumpty Dumpty walked past a wall
Mumpty Dumpty had a not-great fall
An orthopaedic surgeon, a team of nurses, and a physiotherapist
Worked hard to put
Mumpty Dumpty back on her feet again.

 

 

E-friends, it wasn’t just the saints who came marching in on the 1st of November. Mum was marching along at home, doing some routine chore, when her flip-flop got caught in the track of the patio sliding door and …  and Mum went for a toss!  

 

 

Right from the time Mum fell,

through her hospitalisation

 

 

Blinged out! Um, in.

 

 

to her recovery at home

 

 

Thrilled after her first post-op shower at home!

 

 

to her first visit outside our home,

 

 

In our chapel after Mass with two of her close friends in our neighbourhood.

 

 

 

Mum has been upbeat albeit with the normal anxious moment here and there.

 

 

 

The unexpected path Mum got on has been largely smooth, too, with the expected handful of wrinkles.

 

 

(Thank you, God, for averting the many problems that could have cropped up!)

 

 

So this is why, dear e-Friends, I haven’t visited your sites or commented all of last month.  

 

 

Blogs, my own and yours that I read, will continue to sit on the back burner for the next three months i.e. until February 2014. That’s when Mum is expected to function absolutely normally on her awesome ownsome.

 

 

Until then, thank you all for understanding.

 

 

 

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