For You, Daddy!

Friday, 1 February 2013

Love Is All Around Me

 

 

It is Valentine’s Day later this month. I am single, and I am not cynical about that crazy little thing called love.

 

 

Below, I will share excerpts of my correspondence from last year with two friends – BFF Two and Tina, and I will conclude with an excerpt from a newsletter I sent out (to my personal contacts) two years ago. My views on Valentine’s Day mentioned in all the excerpts, remain steadfast. Like true love. 🙂

 

 

This first excerpt is between BFF Two in China and myself two years ago.  

 

 

 

 

 BFF Two and me, trying to figure out how to get the grapes on the trellis above us.        Turpan, Xinjiang Province, PRC.

BFF Two and me, trying to figure out how to get the grapes on the trellis above us. Turpan, Xinjiang Province, PRC.

 

 

 

BFF Two’s text is in her favourite lilac (or the closest I can get to it) and my text in brown.

 

 


 

 

SUBJECT: Happy V-Day!

 

 

Or as you used to call it – ‘Singles Day’. Ha ha! To us, single people, cheers for having the strength to listen to our inner voice, for not compromising on what’s important to us and for remaining single by choice. And for our ability to be happy for those who experience romantic love.

 

 

Nothing decided yet for today. I asked Jake* if he’d like to go out. Don’t know yet if his schedule will permit it.

 

 

*Jake is my friend. He is a Human Rights lawyer (sigh!) with an international organisation, and therefore, has to travel overseas … a little too often for my liking. >< Boyfriend? Nope. Jake is gay. 

 

 

Later this evening, I will get chocolate pastries for Mum and Papa Saluzinho**.

 

 

**Papa Saluzinho and his family live directly across my home. I like all of them very much. Papa Saluzinho is 69, lost his vision completely 10 years ago, lost his wife, Mama Amalia, 3 years ago and their only daughter, Eva, 6 years ago. Eva was 31 and died in an accident. I drop in at Papa Saluzinho’s for a chat every day. The handful of times I’ve gone more than three days in a row without making a nuisance of myself visiting him, he’s got his son to e-mail me a reminder ….  from across the street! Aww.

 

 

Papa Saluzinho has a great sense of humour. His only son, Dave, takes care of him now. I call him Papa and (used to call) his wife Mama because growing up, I heard Dave and Eva call them that. That’s how I think of them, too.

 

 

Enjoy your day, BFF Two. One day, one sweet day, it will happen for you and me. Until then, be proud of your single status. I’m proud to count you as my friend.

 

Kate

 

 

 

The Caco-phony

BFF Two (fake) jamming with Dave and creating a hair-raising ruckus with Dave’s one-time Hallowe’en wig.

 

 

 

Dear Kate,

 

I logged on to write to you and wish you ‘Happy Valentine’s Day’. And there was your mail!

 

 

Yeah, our inner voices are very strong. I think most of the people must be wondering why those two bloody women (you and I) are still so happy, possibly even happier than some of them, even though we don’t have boyfriends. Ha ha!

 

 

We are happy even without boyfriends because we have not settled for just any boy to keep society happy. We are blessed that we don’t have any pressure from our closest family members and closest friends. I know many people tell us that we are too strict with our criteria for a boyfriend, but really, Kate, like you, I just cannot think of compromising on things that are important to me. We make choices that don’t have to include men as romantic partners and we have learned that life as single persons is no less enjoyable. Cheers to us!! 

 

 

But I also wish that people in love with a partner enjoy Valentine’s Day today.

 

 

So you and Jake are going out today? Cool! Is his boyfriend out of town again? Good for you! 😉 

 

 

Chocolate surprises for Mum and Papa Saluzinho. Cool, Kate! Give them both and Dave a hug for me. 🙂  

 

 

I am proud of being single and I am proud to count you as my friend, too, Kate. Enjoy your day, too.

 

BFF Two 

 

 

 

 

The next excerpt is with my friend in Toronto, who I call Tinamisu and a few other nicknames. Her name’s Tina, she’s of Italian origin and I like her as much as I like TiRamisu. She’s just so good natured with my um, name calling.

 

 

 

Tinatalia

Tinsicle Takes On Tuscany

 

 

 

This exchange was during this recently past Christmas week. Tinamisu’s text in her favourite blue and mine in brown.

 

 

Me: I am happy to be home for Christmas this year, Te-yo. Not just because I have my nearest and dearest ones around me. It also means someone else not-necessarily-near, but just-as-dear isn’t struggling alone somewhere because guess where I would be otherwise? I am so very grateful that Mum and the rest of my immediate family understand that I have to ditch them at special times like this because I simply cannot wish everyone ‘Merry Christmas’ when I know that someone I care about is alone and sad at this time of the year.  

 

 

 

My Pepper and Latte

Some of my near and dear, um, wear fur! 🙂

 

 

 

Tinamisu: Just wanted to say I’m really happy that you got to be home this year for Christmas, Kate! I know very well that family, tradition, helping others and of course, food* are very important to you.  And when you can enjoy all of these in one place, all the better!

 

 

Me: You betcha, T-Ice! If I could have my way, I’d make sure we all live together in one big, beautiful place. We already do? It’s called Planet Earth? Oh. 😉 

 

 

*Have you noticed that T-Not-a-pain included ‘food’ up there in the list of things that are important to me? Will talk about this, um, other love of mine in my next post.   

 

 


 

 

This last excerpt is from my newsletter to my personal e-mail contacts on Valentine’s Day two years ago.

 

 

The Subject of that newsletter (via e-mail) was the same at the title of this post – Love Is All Around Me.

 

 

In that newsletter, I shared stories and photographs of some of the people (geographically and emotionally) closest to me:

BFF One

Papa Saluzinho

My 5-year old neighbour, Cahill

My favourite in-state cousin, Henry

and

Mum’s (now) 92-year old bestie, Auntie Alicia  

 

 

 

90 Not Out

Auntie Alicia’s 90th Birthday Dinner

On the left:  Auntie Alicia with her granddaughter

On the right:  My folks

In all our excitement, we i.e. my family, forgot to take a photograph with Auntie Alicia that night, so I merged two shots (above) and sent it as part of my newsletter.

 

 

 

 

This was the conclusion of that newsletter. True to style, it’s a long winding road to the end. 🙂

 

 


 

 

So there. Those are some of the people who put a smile on my face every time we meet, and who I am completely myself with because, like you all, they accept me for who I am, dazzling personality hideous warts and all. 

 

 

I deliberately chose to send this edition out today i.e. Valentine’s Day because it’s about some of the important people in my life. Also, I’m not a cynic about my single status; therefore, I do not scoff at all the pink and red hued stuff around me. I also do not delude myself by wishing my other single friends, “Happy Singles Day!” or some such thing that has caught on recently. Want to celebrate your single-ness? Get yourselves your own day, I say; do not hijack this one. Hoping to go there and do that*, I am happy for those blessed to have a spouse or significant other.

 

 

*Note to self: Please make sure you do not marry an adrenaline junkie like James Franco’s character in ‘127 Hours‘.  Sitting in your seat, you barely survived watching that part and that other part. Whew!

 

 

Changing gears.

 

 

I thought of all of you when I read this recently. This applies not just to the people I’ve talked about in this newsletter or the ones who live here in my city, state or in the country, but also to all of you, my dear kith and kin scattered around this big, wide world:  

 

 

Heart Song

This image is from http://www.idlehearts.com/

 

 

 

 

 

Each one of you contributes to the song that is my life. From some, I get the chorus, from some a verse, some a line and a few contribute a (musical) note, but every single one of you is vital. Thank you for filling my life with music. 

 

 

 

Heart Beat

This image is from http://www.deviantart.com/

 

 

 


 

 

And you, dear e-Friends, provide infrequent, but regular beats to the song of my life. Thank you.

 

 

Love is all around me,

And so the feeling grows.

 

 

I, um, borrowed the title of this post and the two lines above from the following song:

 

 

 

 

 

::  ::   ::   ::  ::  ::  ::     BLOG BUDDY BIRTHDAYS  ::  ::  ::  ::  ::  ::   ::   :: 

 

I hope I’m not ruining surprises for anyone with these very early wishes to two of my blog buddies.

 

 

1.  At first, I found a nice Canadian style wish, but I did not get a response from the blogger whose site that personal photograph is on. Then I saw this one.

 

Happy Birthday, Hook!

This image is from http://www.cafepress.com/

 

 

I do not know what you look like and I do not know if there’s any truth to the statement, but I do know that you are a good sport (and a great husband, father, son and son-in-law!)

 

This year, with your book, ‘The Bellman Chronicles’ (http://youvebeenhooked.wordpress.com/), and with whatever else your heart desires, I hope you get things that are important, not urgent. What does that mean? Buried in the following article is what I’m on about. Not exactly what those words mean in the article, but for your life in general.

 

How to master your time

http://abetterlife.quora.com/How-to-master-your-time-1

 

Oh, since you like lists, here’s one; especially for your birthday.

 

The 35 Dumbest Things Ever Said On The Internet

http://www.buzzfeed.com/daves4/dumbest-things-ever-said-on-the-internet

 

You’re welcome! 😉

Oh, and Happy  Birthday, Hook!! I hope you have as lovely a day as is possible on the 25th!

 

 

 

2. None of the, um, fun things in this picture come to mind when I think of you.

 

MJ's Birthday Wish

This image is from http://manutdnetwork.com/

 

 

Which is EXACTLY why I chose it for you! Ha ha!

 

It’s been a while since I enjoyed your posts at http://www.mjmonaghan.com/, but I know that that silence is for a very good reason. I’m also happy that your extended family and new(ish) co-workers are now enjoying your warmth and humour in person. I hope you and YLB (and Duke, of course!) are doing well in Nebraska. 

 

Breithlá  shona duit, MJ! May your Irish eyes keep smiling all day long on the 28th!

 
 
 
 

Thank you, A Clown on Fire,  for signing up to follow my posts.

 

Thank you, You’ve Been Hooked!, for commenting on my last post.

 

Thank you, You’ve Been Hooked! and Moolta, for liking my last post.

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P.S.: Cheerful Monk adds a footnote to every post acknowledging those who comment on her previous post. She also links the commenters’ names back to their own blogs.

 I like both these practices of acknowledging the time and effort made to comment, and the free advertising! So I’m doing what I do well – being a copycat! 



 

 

 

 

 

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4 Comments »

  1. You are a true original, Kate. I have been blessed to have met such cool, generous souls on the web. You’re head and shoulders above the rest!
    Seriously, you’ve outdone my little shout-out on my blog with this glowing tribute.
    Thank you, my friend.

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    Comment by The Hook — Friday, 1 February 2013 @ 8:43 am |Reply

    • >You are a true original, Kate.
      – Just like you, and everyone else, Hook. I’m glad that my uniqueness appealed to you. It doesn’t work for everyone.

      >I have been blessed to have met such cool, generous souls on the web.
      – I’ll say! I, too, have met some very nice folks out there. Takes me a little while to warm up to someone, but by and large, like you, I am blessed to have encountered good e-buddies.

      >You’re head and shoulders above the rest!
      – You are just biased because I’m a daddy’s-girl gal. Come on, Hook. That has got to score a lot of points with you. Sarah will do you proud, too; in her own way, in her own time. She’s still little. Don’t tell her I said that. Teens, you know? They know everything. 😉

      >Seriously, you’ve outdone my little shout-out on my blog with this glowing tribute.
      – It wasn’t a tit-for-tat; I plan my posts in advance. But yes, our surprises were perfectly timed.

      >Thank you, my friend.
      – My complete pleasure, Hook.

      Kate

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      Comment by For you, Daddy! — Friday, 1 February 2013 @ 11:07 am |Reply

  2. It’s the heart month….Advance Happy Valentine’s Kate ! You may be single like I do but I am sure you are blessed with so much love from the people around you ~ Your family, friends…even your cute furry friends ! It is because you are true to yourself….You are you !!!. I feel you are this kind of person even though I do not know you personally. Proud to have met you !

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    Comment by Elvierose — Saturday, 2 February 2013 @ 4:29 am |Reply

    • >It’s the heart month
      – It is! For The Heart and Stroke Foundation in Canada, too. I volunteered briefly for a project at their office in my (former) city of Mississauga, Ontario.

      >Advance Happy Valentine’s Kate!
      – Salamat po, Elvie!

      >You may be single like I do
      – Oh, you, too? Woo hoo!

      Well, that ‘woo hoo’ is because you come across as a content person, too. It saddens me when I see single women treat their single status as something to be ashamed of or bitter about. No man (or woman, if they are so inclined) would be able to rectify that for them.

      If, like me, you are waiting for a person who will check off certain requirements on a list, I wish that happens for you … when He deems the time is right. I truly believe that everything happens for reasons we may not be able to identify right away.

      >but I am sure you are blessed with so much love from the people around you ~ Your family, friends.
      – Yes, I am just as blessed as you are in this area, too!

      >even your cute furry friends!
      – Oh, these are the best! I know you are an animal lover, too. 🙂

      >It is because you are true to yourself….You are you !!!.
      – Do I have a choice? 😉

      Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” ~ Oscar Wilde

      >I feel you are this kind of person even though I do not know you personally.
      – It’s not easy standing up for myself and defending my different thinking, but I was fortunate that, right from the time I was little, my uniqueness was encouraged, particularly by my father, and supported by my immediate family and my closest circle of friends. Practice has made it easier now, but I still feel hurt when I’m labelled critically for being different.

      >Proud to have met you !
      – I am so pleased to have got to know you, too, Elvie. Your warmth and caring come across clearly in your posts, and that’s the main reason I visit your blog. And because you remind me of my Filipina friend, Fleur! 🙂 Yes, she and I are still in touch. She’s still at Aramco.

      Thank you for posting all my comments on your blog. I dunno why Blogspot played up. I tried on two or three days, I think. Anyway, I’m pleased your boss has been promoted. You do know that he could do a good job because he had a good team, right? So pat on the back to you, too.

      Thank you for your time, Elvie!

      Kate

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      Comment by For you, Daddy! — Saturday, 2 February 2013 @ 6:30 am |Reply


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